How to talk to young people with a communication difficulty

We asked the experts at I CAN for their top tips on talking to young people with a speech, language or communication difficulty

  • Wait for an answer. Some young people need extra time to process language. Repeating or rephrasing is often not helpful.
  • Speak slowly and use simple sentences – understanding words and sentences can be difficult for some people.
  • Think visual. Use demonstration, draw pictures or write things down to help the young person understand, but remember that they may not be able to read very well.
  • Focus their attention before you speak. Many young people find it difficult to ignore distractions and focus, so that they can listen to what someone is saying. Reduce background noise and point out what they should listen to.
  • Try not to use big words and explain the meaning of new words. Some young people have a limited vocabulary – unfamiliar words, such as ‘curfew’ and ‘remand’, will need clear explanations.
  • Avoid colloquialisms, sayings and idioms. Some young people are very literal in their understanding. Phrases such as ‘turn the other cheek’ can be confusing and unhelpful.
  • Don’t make instructions too long – break them up into smaller bits. Some young people have short-term memory difficulties, so they can miss bits of information in longer instructions.
  • Don’t assume understanding. Check if the young person has understood what you have said by asking them to repeat back the important parts. Encourage them to ask you again if they don’t understand.
  • Ask the young person what you can do to help them.

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Talking point: What makes a court appearance easier?

In Raising Your Game’s film ‘Getting ready for court’, young people talk about the things that helped them prepare

“When they say ‘be at court at ten thirty’, your heart is going at a million miles per hour. You’ve got to make sure you get there on time – you don’t even wanna go to sleep the night before. You just wanna be up and ready, standing at the door waiting. And then you get there and there is the biggest, longest wait.”

“I let my solicitor do the speaking, because I’m not good with speaking.”

“My mum told me ‘here’s a shirt, wear a shirt, wear these shoes’. I ignored everything she said. But looking back, if you dress in a tracksuit, they’re gonna think he ain’t interested, he’s a thug.”

“My solicitor said ‘it’s fine, I’ll read it out to you if you don’t understand’. So I was happy with my solicitor – he’s a good solicitor.”

“The most difficult thing is when they’re reading everything out, because they’re making it sound so bad. You feel like you wanna jump up and say ‘that’s not how it happened’, but that doesn’t help your case, cos it shows another side of you – it’s anger and aggression.”

“They [magistrates] decide what’s gonna happen to you, so it’s not gonna do you no harm if you talk to them with respect.”

“My solicitor said ‘there’s gonna be a room full of people’. She explained who’s gonna be sitting where.”

“When you haven’t got anyone sitting there, you feel lonely and you feel nervous. I took my mum once and it gave me a lot of support.”

“It’s all about body language – you’re not gonna be sat in a court and be smiling and sniggering. You’re gonna be looking sincere.”

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